Self-Discovery

Here is an outline for the Belief Assessment Interview. It is based on the four “admissions” that identify a prospective PAL client:

The Four Admissions:

  • Part of my problem is that I am lazy.
  • I regret the time that I have wasted.
  • My laziness has hurt me financially.
  • I want to change, but its not happening.

Overview:
The purpose of the interview is too help you to make the connection between your time-management choices and your career and life outcomes. We will be exploring the inner motivations and thought-processes that lead you to make decisions. Our hope is that by looking at your own answers to these questions, you will gain some insights that can help you to become a more successful and focused person.

Interview Questions:

  • Part of my problem is that I am lazy.
    1. What are the other parts? Bad economy? School? Parents? Illness? ADD? Depression? Politicians? Community?
    2. Am I shifting blame around? In what specific ways?
    3. Is there a natural human tendancy to shift the blame?
    4. How would I define laziness?
    5. What would my day look like if I could break free from laziness?
    6. Political correctness. Does the media avoid the topic of sloth?
    7. Are there “players” in our society that have a vested interest in keeping people inactive?
  • I regret the time that I have wasted.
    1. What is regret? Is it appropriate at this point in my life?
    2. What is shame? Are there some types of shame that are healthy & some that are unhealthy?
    3. Is pain sometimes a good thing?  For example, does pain sometimes give us healthy feedback?
    4. If I had been only reasonably industrious, how would my life be different today?
    5. Please describe people in your community or family that are not lazy.  How are they different from you?
  • My laziness has hurt me financially.
    1. How much money did I make in the last week, year, 5 years, 10 years?
    2. How much might I have have made if I had just been reasonably diligent?
    3. Is it important to me to become self-sufficient & happy in my career?
    4. How important of a factor is the laziness?
    5. Some children are really pushed by their families. Is that appropriate?
    6. Is America really the “land of opportunity?”
    7. Some immigrants to America become very successful. Why?
  • I want to change, but its not happening.
    1. Humans have a nervous system, a skeletal system and a circulatory system. Do we also have a “belief system?” What does that mean to me?
    2. Other systems can be affected by disease. Can the belief system suffer from a disease?
    3. Could laziness be due to a disease in the belief system?
    4. How can a disease of the belief system be treated? Change in world-view?
    5. Do my heros (the people that I listen to in the media) encourage a realistic world-view?
    6. If not, then why am I attracted to listen to them? Is there an ego-feeding or ego-soothing aspect of blaming others for my troubles?
    7. When a person changes their behavior, (but there is no change in their world-view), then do they run a risk of reverting back to their old behavior?
    8. I know that having a personal coach is a good way for a person to stay motivated.  Am I willing to accept free help from an PAL coach?

Failure-oriented beliefs. Do these statements reflect your views? If so, then are they really an accurate description of reality?

  • It is impossible to succeed in this town.
  • The system is set up to keep the little guy down.
  • The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
  • I am stuck in this bad job (or school) and there is no way out.
  • What is the use of trying?
  • With my work history I am sure that I would never be able to find a good job.
  • I can’t find a job because I don’t have a computer, so I can’t go on the internet.
  • I tried to learn [fill-in-the-blank], but it was just too hard for me.

Success-oriented beliefs. Do these statements reflect your views? If so, then are they really an accurate description of reality?

  • God helps those that help themselves.
  • I know that I will be successful if I keep on trying.
  • People don’t fail, they give up.
  • Triumph is just “umph” added to try.
  • Hard work is the yeast that raises the dough.
  • Action brings good fortune.
  • If you think education is expensive, then try ignorance.
  • Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.

 

4 Responses to Self-Discovery

  1. full_time_80 says:

    I went through the PAL interview. It was an eye opener for me.

  2. fulltime_80 says:

    My other comment must have been lost. Anyway, there was a grammatical error in question six under the subheading ‘I want to change, but its not happening’ in the above article. (‘a’ ego should be ‘an’ ego…:)) Anyway, as far as the success oriented belief ‘Education is expensive, try ignorance,’ remember that education does not come necessarily from college. How about hands on training from generation to generation, on a farm, on the job, as a housewife, vo-tech, and so on

    • adpal says:

      Thank you for pointing out the error – I fixed it. Please feel free to mention it if you spot anything else that might be out of kilter. :-)

  3. Anonymous says:

    I suggest thisquestion b added: ask a lazy person if they are satisfied with their productivity level for that day week month year.

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